#366daysofkindness Chapter 9 January 2012

January 31st, 2012 by Bernadette

Get On Board The Love Train!

Dear friends, this Valentine’s Day I will be out and about, probably mostly on the tube, giving away cards/cakes/sweets to people to celebrate Valentine’s Day. I’ll dress up a bit fancy, you know me.

I am inviting people (YOU! Dear reader)to join in by sending a card/message of love to someone. Not so much the obvious partner, but more like: a long lost friend, a relative, someone you mean to tell you love but don’t. Or don’t enough. If you fancy joining in please tell me about it. If you know someone who wants a Valentine’s Card tell me about it (obviously sensitively done!!!) I’m going to try and film my day’s adventures for next blog

contact me bernadette@thewhiterabbit.org.uk

Love Bernadette


Here it is on FB http://www.facebook.com/events/330319523674626/


What I have done and who I have done it to this month!:


5th Jan Left a card and book on the jubilee line- still getting away with Happy New Year cards I think!!


6th Jan Gave this nice waiter in a bar in Bermondsey Street a nice home made card. I had gone to meet Jude and Matt from Wet Picnic to talk about work n stuff, and was looking to someone to give it to (nice card, little bit of glitter inside the envelope, a “make a wish” invitation) The first waiter we met was a bit snooty and rude to Jude’s lovely fella, and I had the card in my hand ready to give to him, but decided he didn’t deserve it. This fella did.



7th Jan Gave a passerby a Happy New Year Card at Burgess Hill Train station


8th Jan Gave a lady a box of ferrero rocher I had left over from Christmas.

Me: (thinking I was hilarious and that everybody knows this ad reference) “Madam with these rocher I am really spoiling you”

Her: “Pardon?”

Me: (bit embarrassed)”Nothing. Bye”

I wanted to ask to take her picture but the moment had passed. Sometimes this just feels a bit weird.




9th Jan My friend Cindy told me this story: “Hello lovely – I just gave a homeless man a quid outside Tesco’s then went back with a cheese and pickle sarnie and a wispa for him – meant I didn’t have enough for my shopping and I felt a bit sheepish but thought of you!”

I love it when people do it too. Hopefully at Valentine’s Day there’ll be loads of us! (hint hint if you’re still reading!)

Gave homeless guy on Deptford High Street a bit of money. I wanted to have a conversation with him; it seemed weird just to drop money in his hand. But a bit shy today….


10th Jan I was in Deptford Train Carriage Café making this jar of sweets to give to someone and trying to order a flat white. The waitress saw what I was doing (tying a ribbon round a piece of gingham, fingers and thumbs) she said, I like that. So she got it.


11th Jan A small gift through the post for Wendy Dumper as recommended by Lucinda Townsend


12th Jan Send to Joe Grayling as suggested by his sis! I am getting a lot of requests from what I think is, judging by the email address, Brighton University??? What’s going on there? I started wondering…. Maybe I should just go and take them a load of cakes. But really like doing the postal ones.


13th Jan I just got this amazing email from Wendy who was 11th Jan’s recipient. “As I opened the box and looked in lovingly at the gifts, my face felt like a big

beam of smiles, and then I started to sob tears of joy.  It really was a wonderful

moment even though it was just me that witnessed it, but that’s OK!

Thank you so much Bernadette – what a wonderful thing you are doing and what fun you

must have putting all these things together, making bits and pieces and making the

cards too, loved the glitter and the little box and the gifts are perfect.  I’m going

to put the “make a wish” tag under my pillow tonight!”

This made me cry.

Most days I plan ahead a little bit and have something in my bag prepared to give to someone, but today by strange coincidence, I heard this man at work say he was planning a route 66 trip and someone had given me a book about that so I gave it to him. Easy. He sent me a link to a song about kindness. Here’s the ink if you fancy a listen http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uL8A-b9XZaI

Good day today.

14th Jan Combining spring clean with kindness gave this Kate Moss dress to my friend’s daughter


15th Jan I got this message:

“I know of your 366 days of kindness project, and it’s really sweet. I was wondering

if I could get some little bit of kindness on the post for my birthday? It’s next

Wednesday 18th January, but I feel a bit low because it’s so close to my late

husband’s birthday, that was on 16th January. He’d be 40, if he hadn’t died a year

and a half ago. Please surprise me, I love surprises!”

Sent a birthday surprise to Doly Garcia, who’s above email broke my heart a little bit.


16th Jan A few years ago I was lucky enough to work with Stan’s Café in Toronto at the Harbourfront Centre and I loved it there, and loved all Torontonians (is that how you say it?)- during the time I was there a man dashed out of his house on Toronto Island to give me a coat when it started to rain, and a taxi driver drove back to my hotel to return the purse I dropped outside his door. There’s not much you can teach the Canadians about kindness, if you ask me. Anyway, I loved it, and I posted my friend Viktor’s girlfriend Nina, whom I am yet to meet, a nice card. My first across-the-pond kindness. I am going to send Viktor another one to deliver to Toronto. He doesn’t know it yet.


17th Jan For Marion Gold, as suggested by Rebecca Tonge, through post


18th Jan I think this was in Jam Circus in Brockley. I was definitely in Brockley, anyway, I gave this lady a chocolate heart that my friend Penny Harrison had given me to pass on (thanks Pen) and she gave me a gigantic glass of red wine which meant I turned up to my friend’s house a bit squiffy. Instant karma.


19th Jan went for meeting about Shoreditch festival. I took an instant like to this man, who was slightly suspicious of me, but accepted my gift nonetheless


20th Jan for my friend Charlotte Civil- Sullivan’s husband


21st Jan On my way to see my friend’s show at the Lyric (great BTW, Great Grans’ Great Games) all ready to deliver something to someone at the theatre, when, on the way saw man on the tube trying for 20 minutes to get his contact lens in by reflection in window glass. I felt sick at all the eye pokery and was getting really irritated. Then I remembered I am supposed to be kind and lent him my compact mirror. More pockery. His friend was holding mirror up. His friend: “is this gay?” me: ” no. I don’t know” him: “I’m supposed to be in goal”. My stop came. Him :” here have your mirror back” me: ” no u keep it” his friend : “this is mental” I got off then remembered mirror was present from the very friend I was going to see in the show. Oops. It was a pretty camp mirror, and I loved the thought of him checking his eyes in goal with my dainty compact.


22nd Jan I’d left it a bit late today, that happens sometimes when I am working from home and I don’t leave the house and get embroiled in Radio4. So I dashed out and delivered a card to the nearest spooky house I could find. Don’t know why, I was in the mood for spooky. Quite daring as it looked like Miss Haversham lived there. The curtains twitched as I was trying to take a picture and I ran off…


23rd Jan Doing tax returns. Did a 5* review for someone who deserves it. See, I don’t even have to leave the house!


24th Jan In Eastleigh with the fabulous Wet Picnic. Gave this lady a good luck card. She has since become a friend, but I had only just met her.


25th Jan met this lovely man outside Waterloo station collecting for veterans. I gave him the scripscraps from my purse. Him: “Thanks” Me: “You’re welcome. Can I take a photo of you?” Him: “I’ll probably break your camera” Me: “No you won’t, a handsome man like you” Him: “oo *blushes* er.. ok.. thanks”.

It got me thinking, I don’t give enough compliments. They don’t cost anything etc. Gonna do more.


26th Jan Today I left a homemade chocolate in a silver box outside my neighbours house. It’s a really nice chocolate and an even nicer box. It’s safe to say that if you live within a 5-mile radius of my house you’ll get a surprise on your doorstep from me before this year’s up.


27th Jan found out that my friend Kate who was coming to the show tonight had a show coming up. I made her up an early birthday present. She was chuffed. Was good. It was a great show and the rest of my cakes got eaten up, which is a first.

28th Jan Davy’s Wine Bar, Greenwich, at my friend’s wedding party- this man got a card. He was nice. The card was slightly spooky but I hope he liked it.


29th Jan This was a weird night. I ended up at BBC audio awards, and at the after party both David Tennant and Johnny Vegas, Both very nice, Vegas hilarious. I had a small gift ready to give to someone but I had left it in my bag in the cloakroom so I ended up leaving it outside a flat in Deptford. Those two probably get enough kindness anyway.


30th Jan My friend Lucinda sent me a replacement mirror for the one I gave away on 21st Jan. Loads of people left me nice messages as I posted on FB that I was a bit fed up and now I am embarrassed and will never moan no more.

Reviewed and gave 5* to The Shadow by Michela O’Brien


31st Jan Gave this nice lady a small gift. She gave me a petition to sign. Fair’s fair.


  1. you’re welcome! so glad you liked it xx

  2. Hi Bernadette,

    What a lovely person you are. I received your card today and it really touched me and made me cry! This is fantastic, thank you (and Cathy) so much!


  3. hey! great too meet you too! Glad you liked it all, and advice taken on beret. Hope to see you in there again one day x

  4. February 14, 2012 at 5:42 pm


    Loved meeting you at Le Beaujolais ay lunchtime! Bless you for your card, the sweet cake – and your kisses! It made our day…and you really should wear berets more often – you looked great!

    Love you loads

    Mike xx
    14 February 2012

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